Thought Avoidance

In case anyone doesn’t realize it, life coaches are not the people who have it all figured out. We go through the same brain drama as everyone else on the planet. The only difference is that life coaches are continually working on ways to move past the drama so we can create more satisfying lives. I coach women on self-worth and Imposter Syndrome because those are issues that I have been working on myself for years.

This week, I realized I’ve been pushing through some of my self-worth issues rather than confronting them, and I wanted to share this with you because it might remind you to check in with yourself from time to time.

There’s a thin line between realizing a thought is coming up because it’s a habit versus it being a problem that needs examination. If a thought keeps sneaking in, but it doesn’t threaten you in any way, you are certain it has no merit, then you can simply acknowledge it as a meaningless thought from your past and move on. But if it feels true and causes negative feelings to surface, you don’t need to push it away. You need to welcome it to the table for closer examination.

Thought examination can’t be done well in our heads; you have to get it out on paper. Research has shown that it works best when you write out your thoughts by hand. This manual handwriting allows our brains to clean it all out in a way we can’t do when we’re typing. Once it’s all out on paper, we can really look at our thoughts and create awareness of why we continue to have them.