People-pleasing is common amongst women, especially women who struggle with Imposter Syndrome. Most people-pleasing is born out of a dislike of confrontation because we don’t feel worthy of exerting our own wants, wishes, or desires. We remain quiet or even accept blame unnecessarily rather than confront the person about the issue.
Recently, I coached a woman who labeled herself as a people-pleaser. She was frustrated because she felt like she always bent over backwards for her co-workers, yet they never returned the favor. She felt like they took advantage of her good intentions, and she was at the point of leaving and finding another job.