When I was 27 yrs old, I won the “Young Businesswoman of the Year” award in my small town. During the ceremony, I gave a speech, which looking back seems both naïve and intuitive. I spoke on women collaborating with and helping other women succeed in a world where our tendency seems to be to step on other people to get ahead rather than reaching down to lift others up.
It was naïve in the idealistic way youth is often naïve. “Why can’t we just all live together in love and acceptance and help each other move ahead?” It is a charming, alluring thought, especially when you have lived just enough of your life to be hungry for more. But in reflection, even 22 years later, there is so much truth in such an idealistic idea. What do we gain by thinking small, petty thoughts of others? What do we gain by stepping on others to get ahead?
All of this leads me to thoughts of abundance I have been trying to cultivate lately. I have lost 50lbs in the last year, and my goal this year was to lose 50 more, but I’ve been pretty stagnant in the first 6 months of the year. How does this connect to helping women move ahead, you ask? Well, I realized that lately I have been hard on myself, and my weight loss thoughts are centering around what I’m not doing, what I’m failing at, which are thoughts that come from a place of scarcity and fear. Nothing good comes from scarcity and fear. Scarcity and fear make us draw in and become miserly—and miserable (consider the connection of these two words). If I lose weight from scarcity and fear, I have to beat myself up and threaten myself. I’ve never lost weight from a place of scarcity and fear and kept it off for very long.